19 Things About Life You Should Know Before You Turn 29 by Guest Blogger Nicolas Cole

2017 has officially flown by.

(Remember all those things you swore you were going to do back in January? Have you done any of them?)

One of the things I prioritize doing Q4 of every year is taking a considerable amount of time to reflect on what worked well and what didnt  so I can set myself up for success in the year to follow.

Most people like making New Years resolutions on New Years Eve.

I like starting mine in October, so by the time the New Year rolls around, Im already kicking.

Recently, I was catching up with a friend of mine, Case Kenny, founder of PRSUIT, an extremely popular daily life advice email for Millennials, and we were talking about being in our late 20s  and what goals we should be setting for next year.

Im 29, he said. My next birthday, Im not going to be a 20-something anymore.

I think thats an interesting topic, I said. What are all the things you think someone should learn between the ages of 19 and 29, then?

This is what we came up with:

1. Nobody owes you anything.

As a kid, you think the world owes you stuff: a job, a paycheck, friends, a good family, success, the list goes on and on.

By the end of your 20s, you realize the world doesnt owe you a thing.

Whatever you want is yours to get.

2. Asking for help doesnt mean youreweak.

Far from it. It means you care enough to ask.

People respect that.

3. You cant share what you dont have yourself.

Its like the people who want so badly to be in love, but havent first learned how to love themselves.

It starts with you.

4. Nobody cares if youre wrong. They care if you can moveforward.

By the time youre finished with your 20s, you learn that admitting youre wrong is a skill, not a weakness.

And what people really care about is whether you can take accountability for your mistakes.

Thats what makes a great team member and person.

5. Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesnt get you anywhere.

So clich but so true.

6. Getting older isnt a bad thing. Its agift.

Not everyone gets the chance to grow old, you know.

Think about that for a second.

7. Two halves dont make a whole. Two wholes make awhole.

Whether youre looking for a significant other, a business partner, or your next closest friend, just remember: Two halves dont make a whole.

You both need to be solid in who you are before you can build something together.

8. Treat people with respect, even when they dont deserveit.

By the time youre 29, you should be able to cope with things better than holding grudges and sub-tweeting people passive-aggressively.

Just let it go. Be respectful. Youd want the same.

9. Nobody finds their passion. They practiceit.

I am such a firm believer of this. You dont wake up one morning with your passion presented to you like a gift on Christmas morning.

So, enjoy the journey. But also, get to it.

12. If youre the smartest person in the room, youre in the wrongroom.

Enough said.

13. You have to care about your work for it to make animpact.

When people dont care, it shows. Personally and professionally.

If you want to do something meaningful, build something special, or create a lasting relationship, you have to care  and care a lot.

14. Commitment iskey.

A lot of people talk about all the things they want to do, or will do one day.

Very few people commit to the process.

At the end of the day, those that succeed are the ones who have the discipline to stay committed to whatever it is theyre doing over a long period of time.

15. No amount of money will ever beenough.


Warren Buffett talks about this a lot. Extra 0s wont make you any happier. Pick something you like and do that.

16. Youre going to fail. And its going tohurt.

And thats OK.

Its all part of the process. Remind yourself of that.

17. Your past DOES define you! (In a goodway.)

Look to the things youve achieved (and failed at) as stepping stones, and reference them often as you look to higher summits.

18. Perspective is everything, but action is more important.

Having a new viewpoint is great and all, just make sure you take that wisdom and apply it.

Anyone can talk the talk.

19. Tiny steps will take you much further than infrequent homeruns.

People think success is always about hitting it out of the park.

Its not.

The small stuff you do on a daily basis will take you much further than always trying to throw that game-winning Hail Mary pass.